Bullying and judging (Real talk)


“One who speaks out of turn to tell you, you don’t have any depth, is generally the one who lacks it the most.” 

I myself have often been told, “You don’t have enough depth.” Ok well first off, how would anyone know whether I did or not, after only speaking with me for five minutes? I’ve experienced many hardships in my life. One’s that now I in turn would like to show the world that it’s OK. We live and we learn. What makes us …us are all the scars and molds that we’ve gained. Many under-estimate me (not my blogging community) and no it doesn’t bother me. That’s OK “It is what it is.” Courtesy of: My Dad.

The problem: many others are affected by this. It used to affect me. All of my readers have gone through something in their lives, know someone who has, and much more. Therefore, that is why I’m going to throw these series of questions at you.

What does depth really mean to you?

This word gets misused a lot. First, I’d like to state that, just the mere act of telling someone they don’t have depth says a lot about your character. Only those who lack “Depth” judge others before knowing them. Those that hold a lot of depth generally look at people in a different light.

So why is it OK for others to judge?

I’ve mentioned in a previous post, “You shouldn’t judge a book by its cover.” An old quote I’ve heard all my life. Mom used to say, “don’t knock it, til’ you try it.” Well she was right. I’ve learned a lot of interesting things because I took her advice by trying things, before ruling them out.

Why is this so important to me?

Last week as I facilitated a work shop on bullying, I noticed many of the students watching me, eyeing me carefully, and hanging on to every word I spoke.

Cyber-bullying is a huge thing these days. Student target each other, and now that many schools are changing over to online curriculum, it’s even easier to be a target. Students can hack into your student accounts and delete your files, homework and other things.

The students talked a lot about the bullying issue. One in particular had recently been a target. She was being called a lesbian publicly on social networks, by a fellow classmate. That made her feel terrible to be judged like that.

I know it’s important to remember that bullies generally are bullies, because of their own problems they carry of their own. However, this is where I stand up and say, “Let’s make a difference.”

I, like many others have gone through hardships. The question is, how do we empower others?

Rather than turning their angst into hatred, how do we make it something they can futuristically guide others with?

I love my students, no matter how flighty they get. They are brilliant! Even the slackers. Their sweet. I have this dream that one day these young kids will see a better light. Is that crazy? Hopeful? Or the right thing to encourage?

Today, I’m getting ready to go in and do my part two series on bullying which also requires a writing prompt about it. Their opinions matter to me. I want to hear from their own minds what they believe it takes to better unique, stand out, and empower others.

“I believe it only takes one beautiful mind to offset the rest.”

In order to make a difference, I first believe that stepping up, and speaking up for what you believe in is vital. Empowering your peers is next. Let’s not forget teamwork. Everyone has flaws, and I know it’s hard for some to overlook them. Especially when you’re young. I think what truly makes the difference is helping this thought process change. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. The star football player may not be as good at academics as the aspiring scientist in the next classroom, but! They were both born with their special and unique talents. The front stage ballet dancer may not be as talented as the musician soloist is in the music room next door, but! God gave them their abilities for a reason. In the grand scheme of things we are all made different in order to complement each other.

Lastly, I would like to encourage dialogue from all of my readers by asking,

What do you think it takes to make a change, difference, impact, or noise?

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6 thoughts on “Bullying and judging (Real talk)

  1. mincs1 says:

    I think what you are doing, talking about bullying, calling for discussion of differences and acceptance of those differences is what will help bring change to the sad mess our children are living. Hopefully all of society will benefit from the empowerment our children can gain from their awareness. Thank-you for your role in opening up discussion about bullying.

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