The saying goes “Don’t pull out all your cards right away.” This leads the enemy to believe they have the upper-hand. To underestimate you. I’m a very ….VERY patient person, and kindhearted, there are many things I know that I choose not to reveal. However, rub me the wrong way, and you’ll regret it painfully. This is not to any of my readers here on my blog. I am merely stating facts, and how I feel. However, when someone threatens me because they think they can intimidate me, and scare me… they have a whole other thing coming to them. Wisdom is knowing when to stay quiet, and when to speak up. I’ve held my tongue for years, but today, you have officially declared war. WATCH what happens next. Let’s do this!!!
This statement is a reflection of something involving an idiotic situation. You see, I have an eight year old daughter whose father was very clear from the very beginning of her life path that he didn’t want anything to do with her. However, I am a Rareity. Therefore, in the eight year span of her life, I have allowed his parents to be a part of her life. Why? Because it’s the right thing to do. Today, I received a summons declaring he is filing for full custody so his parents could raise her for him. This doesn’t surprise me. This was something they tried to convince me to do since she was born.
I was raised to believe that we should be responsible and take responsibility of our actions and consequences of those actions. I’m sorry that my choice to be responsible for my own child makes grandma angry. I’m sorry if this post seems like a whining mess, or complaint because that is not my goal with this message. The message is: How does one expect to abandon their child, but suddenly come out of the woodworks eight years later to “Take” full custody of a kid that they’re planning to drop off at grandparent’s doorstep and run back off out-of-state, is beyond me.
This is what I do know: I have refused to be the bad guy. My daughter has spent plenty of time with her family. She has been formulating her own opinions about HER family as well. They are not positive. She has often been left with a negative impression of her family, and has come home upset and crying about her experiences with her bio dad. So today, I’m honestly reaching out to my readers because I’d like to know your take on this. I gather many compliments about my parenting skills, but refuse to take it to my head. She is intelligent because I work my bottom off to help her get ahead. During our summers, after we’ve settled for the evenings, we sit and prep for the upcoming year. Every year, she masters the curriculum in the first nine weeks. Why do I do this? Because then her year comes and goes with a breeze. This is beside the point. I go above and beyond to teach this precious little miracle to understand the same life lessons I was once taught. We have an apricot tree now as well. I find myself under it all summer long. As a girl, I’d look outside and find dad standing peacefully under our’s back home, I would gasp in excitement, and rush to throw on my shows as quickly as I could, just to have my special moment with him. Today, I often wonder as she notices me outside the window doing the same thing, and rushes to flop her shoes on, if she thinks the same thing I did as a little girl? Rushing outside to talk to mom (dad then) a parallel. I am the best of both my parents, because she deserves that same morality. I have put up with a lot of emotional abuse from her paternal side of her family, for many years they have talked down to me, said mean and abusive things to me, and said things about me to my daughter, that she’s brought home. I’ve always taken it with an OK-and-one-day-she’ll-see-this mentality. I apologize if I sound cocky, or conceited in this post. I am not attempting to achieve that whatsoever. This bears on my mind because, it is very cruel to do. Anyhoo I do notice now that I’m getting quite wordy, so I’m going to sign off. Readers be honest, if I’m annoying you with this ramble say it. Tell me to shut it! if you have an opinion throw it in my face, because I’ll appreciate it, take it, and ponder it. Thank you for reading this far, and have a great week!