Do Behavior Traits Affect Your Relationships?

    “It’s not about saying what you’ll do, it’s about doing what you feel.”

How many of you have heard the term “Actions speak louder than words.” Well… They do.

Let’s take affection for example: I could sit here all day and tell you all about how much affection I want to give you, and how much you deserve it, but in all reality, I’m not really accomplishing anything with it. Why? 

Isn’t true affection the mere interest in someone? Curiousities about that persons mind, their life, who they are, how they think… Isn’t it the appreciation of that knowledge that truly shows your devotion? 


Exactly! πŸ‘Œ

Whether it be relationships, or friendships, etc. it’s the conversation that determines the connection. Rather then over compensating for yourself and strenuously convince a person you fit their mold, maybe it’s discovering, and inquiring, that gathers interest.

Personally, I believe there is more to affection then just words. It’s an equation that requires several factors to take place. 

“Small minds discuss others. Average minds discuss topics. Great minds discuss ideas.” 

In the world we live in today, we tend to forget the importance of the little moments. I know I say this a lot, but it’s about what we do, say and how we make a person feel that impacts them. I was recently inboxed by one of my readers who asked, “What is something about your childhood that you experienced that your proud of today.” 
My response: 

“There is more to life then what’s on TV.” Dad used to say underneath our apricot tree. Looking down at me with that adoring gaze, he continued, “You know ___, the world we know is only a sensation. There is so much more within the cracks.” Moments just like that forever impacted who I am today.”

I know what your wondering. Why did this moment and many others like it impact her?

Well, me And my I inquisitive mind. “What do you mean… Inside the cracks? Like there is a hidden meaning?”

“Something like that.” His smile would grow. “Now it’s up to you to figure it out.” I looked at the clear sky, then at the ground and uttered, “Huh.” Thought pondered.

 In the short life, and time I had with him on this earth, he brought up a headstrong warrior with a wild fury in her heart. I’m not afriaid to use my mind, and I’m bold enough to speak up for what I believe is right. And why? 

Once upon a time, these musings made me think, wonder, smile, and understand life’s greatest riddles… In the end, He made me feel loved. For his affection inspired him to plant the seed. While he may not be around today to watch it grow, It is there. Larger,  experimented with, tailored, and now passing on. It is a bigger kernel for the next generation. Through that trickle, the seed will grow. Into a plant. Possibly a bush. Ultimately a tree. With that fruit, a difference made. As leaders in the world we should all inspire thought. As parents, mothers and fathers, aunts, uncles, etc. our best start to making a difference in this world is within those minds.  

These moments meant a lot to me. That time we spent together, talking… Pondering.. Learning. In the end. I knew how affectionate his love was for me. Next time you hear, “I want affection from you.” Try peering into that mind and figure out what’s cooking inside. πŸ€”

This weekends obstacle coarse went great. It was inspiring my young minds to come together and create an idea, that made it all worth the while. I’d post pictures, but I’m terrible on the weekends. I disconnect entirely. ☺️

Happy inspirational Tuesday everyone 

Mellie πŸ’ 


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