I’ve been recovering from a highly over stimulating weekend. Mainly focusing on my ME time. I gotta admit, my setback with my editing three weeks ago truly tripped me up. Anytime I’ve thought about getting back at it, it get a sense of dread deep down in the pit of my stomach…. Meh 😕.
Have you ever heard this question:
“Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?”
I have. What it means to me is very important. This statement holds a lot of weight in everyday situations. Life…. I talk life a lot. To you, my kids, and my friends. It’s… All I know. I’m inquisitive and my days don’t go by without understanding the deeper meanings. (Thanks dad… I owe you one. 😌)
Considering our time is short on this earth, I don’t ever find importance in… Strife. Things, life, moments, plans, and memories don’t HAVE to be a huge issue. Sometimes, people focus more on their way, that they forget to enjoy life itself and go with the flow.
My point: rather then putting more emphasis on being right, why not just BE happy. Examples:
- Work environments
Sometimes, your going to have differences. Guess what… That’s ok. Why? Because healthy connections involve a few key traits.
- Intimacy (If this is a relationship)
When we lack these traits we tend to experience one sided relationships. Why? Because one half cares more about being right, then they do about being happy. Everyone has feelings. You have to remember that your connection does to. Meaning, if you hurt a friends feelings, or your partner, or boss, or employee, or kid. The wrong thing to do is place higher weight in their understanding of how right YOU are. Conflict isn’t a competition. No one wins. When compromising it should always be about moral. Not, “We’re doing it my way or not at all.” As those traits above specify. Connections are not ever permanent. If you want to have good relationships with those around you, you must work at it. Nothing good in life ever came for free. If your not willing to make the effort, stop fooling yourself and those around you. There is no such thing as trying, that’s just a formality to get someone off your back.
This goes for your children as well. Deep down they may be small, but they have the same minds we do. When you stop, slow down, and breath and put those traits into play, you reach your children better.
My suggestion: the next time you are faced with a stressful situation. Stop, breath, count to six. Allow yourself to think it through BEFORE you escalate the situation. Unless the other person is deliberately escalating and being snarky. At that point you may need to remove yourself from the situation.
Remember: if you hurt someone’s feelings, have remorse. It means you care. If you offend somebody, own up. Don’t make it about how they need to hear why you did it, in order to feel they deserve an apology. . That’s not how life works. When was the last time saying sorry killed anybody? (Before explaning so!) We can’t expect those we hurt to understand your reason for hurting them is logical. THEIR HURT! Until you redeem yourself for the hurt, you can’t expect others to…”Get over it” karma is real, and boy can she be a B!%@$
Have a great inspirational Tuesday.