The Spiritual ByPass Guy

The moment he laid his hand on me in harm was the moment there was no longer heart. Hence, the lack of heartbreak. Had he stayed sober, that magic would have stayed alive. The relapse broke down the entire dynasty.

The moment he laid his hands on me in harm was the moment there was no longer heart. Hence, the lack of heartbreak. Had he stayed sober, that magic would have stayed alive. The relapse broke down the entire dynasty.


Is Chad capable of being authentic? Doubt it. let’s see? It all starts with admitting.


Throughout my journey, I’ve grown fond of the shadow work I’ve put into MY Self. No one is more critical of me than I am of my OWN SELF. that is why…. I live and learn. I grow. Endure and persevere.


The phone rang close to 7am on Sunday morning. I answered groggily and received the bubbly voice of Chellie, “Hello dearie!” Oh Chellie I don’t care what time of day you call, your voice sends pure love and light into me like that first sip of coffee on a Monday morning.

I sat up and began my trip to the kitchen to start my pot. Chellie began speaking on her current life experiences and what she is trying to do in order to create resilience in her personal life, in order to move forward in a productive way.

I smiled and responded, “You know Chellie, I have so much faith in you, I can tell you with confidence that your gonna be alright. After a breath of clarity, Chellie made her sigh noise and asked, “I don’t know Mandy…I’d love to know your secret.” I laughed and asked, “what secret?”

“I recognize you, your light, how you move and what you are”

Hey now! I’m just Me. “Yes you are and still I wonder, how do you do it?”… “Because if life is worth living than it’s also worth achieving.”

“Mandy, I’ve known you for a long time, I remember when you first took me under your wing while I was still a little biddy. You raised me up into my own Queendom. 🙀 my mouth dropped and silence hit the air. The sound of brewing coffee echoed through the house. “Aww Chellie..” Mandy, I’ve watched you do your shadow work and it never seizes to amaze me how well you piece yourself back together every time life throws something fierce at you. You are proof that there is hope…

You’d think I’d be used to it by now. Nope! Just when I think you’ve topped the cake, you always end up adding another layer of flavor in there.”


After our phone call ended, I stared at the phone and slowly drifted into my contemplative state of mind, letting her statement sink in.

“I’d spent so much time allowing Chad to make me question my OWN integrity, I’d almost forgotten who I was, what I’ve accomplished and what it took to get where I am today. To be… who I am today. HOW… I grew into the woman that I am today.

While, my journey shaped me. Chads journey, broke him. For, that is the basic difference and foundation between having or NOT having emotional intelligence.


Your inconsistencies prevent her from being able to fully love you the way she wants to. Read that again

What you resist, persists. – C. G. Jung

To spiritually bypass is to use spirituality to avoid, suppress, or escape from uncomfortable issues in life.

A prime example of this could be; self-sabotaging behaviors, mental or emotional health issues, self medicating, or any other problems life presents.


Pretending to be all great and powerfully spiritual after attempting to murder someone as a means to avoid facing your darkness within.

Every time I see his HURT people HURT people meme, I find myself giggling 🤭 then stating out loud, “Well at least your able to admit it.

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19 thoughts on “The Spiritual ByPass Guy

  1. 🧝‍♀️Rarenwise🧝‍♀️ says:

    Remember when we make assumption we make ourself look naive and unintelligent. You might want to get your facts straight before you come at people acting all knowing

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  2. 🧝‍♀️Rarenwise🧝‍♀️ says:

    I’m not sure what your speaking about but Chad is not the father of my children. He’s a sack of shit criminal who assaulted me and tried to take my life

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  3. 🧝‍♀️Rarenwise🧝‍♀️ says:

    Here’s an idea. Tell Chad to read my entire post before he comes at me with response from all his fake accounts. Or.. is Chad not capable of remaining calm enough to read the whole post?🤔

    as I stated earlier. If Chad continues to persist that he didn’t do anything wrong. I will blast the period of his crime EVERYWHERE including his identity.

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  4. Saliha Waseem says:

    Some people don’t have the word “Accountability” in their dictionaries. You have every right to be angry and feel justified. I just wish, people particularly men take relationships seriously and realize the impact of lifelong trauma other person goes through because of their lies and abuse.

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    • 🧝‍♀️Rarenwise🧝‍♀️ says:

      Chad won’t. Chad threw his entire life away for drugs and alcohol. Pissed away the greatest thing that happened to him for his demons. Chad won’t understand what he did until he’s facing the same experiences in his own life. Truth be told, karma has a way of showing you your reckoning ten fold

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    • 🧝‍♀️Rarenwise🧝‍♀️ says:

      Yep! The problem here is that. Chad is still focusing on maintaining his lies. he tried to take my life. There is no excuse and no way around it. Until, he takes accountability for it I have every right to continuously remind him

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    • 🧝‍♀️Rarenwise🧝‍♀️ says:

      Honestly at this point as he continues coming at me with fake accounts I’m ready to BLAST his sin everywhere for the world to see what he really did. Rather then blame me for why he assaulted me, he may want to come clean with himself and me and stop pretending like he knows better than I because I got facts!! And I ain’t scared t show the world what he did to me

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